Wednesday, November 11, 2015

Family Graduation 2015

Family Graduation Pictures

I always admire those families which all their children graduated and they will take a family picture together wearing their graduation gowns. I never imagine this day to come and it was something we all look forward to. 

Although I took a longer time to graduate as I was working a few years before continuing my studies again, I still made it in the end. That was all along my dream and I persevered to complete it last year. I knew I have to have a closure to this road. 
When cherry came back few weeks ago, we had to take this picture as a tradition and it was her idea. So, at last our dream came true and we are on to the next stage.Cheers to those who never gave up on us and helped us. I believe God is unfolding his plans for us and is slowly rewarding us this year. I am so glad everything is coming back in place. And also to my dearest Amos, you are the love of my life, this year is such a great year because I met you! For being there for me thus far... I love you.

To God be the Glory!



To my daddy and papa: Thanks for driving me to school when I am late for classes. For correcting my work and essays and guiding me in school.
To my Mummy: Thanks for your love, cooking me all the delicious nutritious food.

















Tuesday, September 15, 2015

If Marriage were a Movie

If Marriage were a Movie

Ivan & Veronika by David

Something to share...

Hi everyone. Maya here again, this time filling in for David as he’s away on a work trip to Paris. But I believe that when you’re in the world’s capital city of romance, even work would be a blast! I’m grateful for the opportunity to share something on this blog, and while I have racked my brain all weekend trying to think of something worthy of your two minutes, the answer was actually waiting for me when I rolled over on my bed this morning and caught a glimpse of the familiar chubby face next to me; the face of my husband of nine years. When I looked at him, I knew exactly what I wanted to share with you today. 
When people ask us about our dating period, there’s one story my husband always shares, one that he calls, something of my weirdness. He said, “I will never forget she told me that we need to fight at least once a month. Even if there was really nothing to fight about, she would find one and pick a fight. I have never heard of anything weirder. But the truth is, every time we’d fight, I forgot that she ever said that, because she always managed to get me all worked up.” 

He may have called it weird, but I call it smart! Ha! 
The way I see it, when we’re dating, everything is all hearts and roses, and the only kind of feeling we naturally want to address and express are joy, happiness, butterflies in your belly and of course, love. We don’t want to do anything with the opposites. When we’re still dating, we find it easy to yield, to compromise, to do things we don’t really want to do because “we are just so in love!” However, I believed (and I still do) that marriage won’t always be days filled with bright colored rainbows; there will be dark days that bring us down too. I wanted to see if I would be able to live with him when he’s under pressure and if he would be able to live with me even if I were annoying (because I believed that I will be, and I was right. Lucky for him, he caught a preview.)
If marriage were like a movie, then the dating period is the trailer. Why go see the movie, if you didn’t even like the trailer? And I wanted to see the whole trailer, not just the good parts. I wanted to see how he is when he’s angry and when he’s scared. I wanted to see how he is when he’s disappointed and how he was when he was sick (which until today remains the same. He still hibernates like a bear in winter for three days straight.) I also wanted to see how he was under pressure because I believe that pressure can cause people to do things out of the ordinary. I wanted to find out if I was willing to accept any of that, because I believe that people don’t change that easily. If I hated it then, I would still hate it now. 

So, yeah… my husband may say that it’s a weirdness, but I still think it’s wisdom. 
Before you marry someone, catch the whole preview. See what he’s like when he’s angry, when he’s sad, even when he’s sick. Find out if he’s persistent, if he’s a workaholic and if he puts his work before you. Find out if you’re able to live with it now and if you can accept him just as he is, because if you can’t, you won’t be able to later anyway, even after you’re married. 

If you don’t like the trailer, it’s okay to say that you don’t want to watch the movie. But if you decide to watch it, do it because you know for sure that you’ll like it.
 
I wish you a beautiful Monday and an even more beautiful week.

 
All my love,
Maya

Monday, August 31, 2015

Montigo resorts Batam



Montigo Resorts


Four of us adventurous girls decided to go on a short vacation at Batam. Caren was planning it for a long time and finally we get to go! 

Montigo Resorts is a place with many private villas that include a private pool, kitchen and rooftop. 

Montigo Resorts provides the ultimate getaways for all generations. From children to grandparents, each exciting experience is uniquely suited to individual tastes and expectations. Indeed, there is something for everyone.






Photo Credit: Caren Foo @juneunicorn
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All the girls wanted to eat A&W as Singapore doesn't have it. And it was awesome! Hope Singapore can have it someday again!~




Wafflles!


The famous The Master kuehs






The High Tea set



Cheers to HAPPINESS!!




It was Joey's Birthday and we had a mini surprise cake for her!
Photo Credit: Caren Foo @juneunicorn
http://caramabes.com/blog/






Photo Credit: Caren Foo @juneunicorn
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Having fun and chit chats in the private pool











The bath tub is big enough to fit all of us. Feeling warm and fuzzy ~









Photo Credit: Caren Foo @juneunicorn
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Includes Breakfast! 



Blue & White Theme




Another Round of swimming pardon the Bare face^^










BYE BYE!



Photo Credit: Caren Foo @juneunicorn
http://caramabes.com/blog/


Wednesday, August 5, 2015

The Engagement & Proposal

It's been a long journey for me in terms of relationships and finally after years of searching I have finally found the One that accepts me as who I am and loves me unconditionally.
I am so thankful for him as he takes my tantrums and habits which most guys couldn't. After praying for so long, I told God honestly what I needed and even scolded Him for not bringing me the right person. So not long after, I met him...

The story begins like that IF you didn't know yet.

We knew each other on Christian Connection a christian dating website on the first day of CNY this year. He was thew first one to hit on me and we begin exchanging messages. He being truthful, told me about his partial disability of deafness which I was surprised. But since I took a course in University which has a topic on Sign language and I was in the group that did that topic for presentation. So I didn't reject him and continued to talk to him.
And then we decided to meet few days later to watch a movie. Our first movie, Fifty Shades of Grey. A bit too much for the first but I was whatever, it's something that I was curious as the book was very popular and my class in University did discussed about it before.

My first impression of him was, "OMG, he is so thin and sloppy!" He just wore a brown T shirt and jeans. And because we had difficulty communicating, we sat down and talk through messaging on our phones. I was like ppl will think we are weird just sitting there not talking and concentrating on our phones. Well, but we did shared alot about each other and I was a little impressed of his serious look when telling me his stories. We ended the night by sitting outside of Plaza Sing. talking and when we wanted to leave, he raised his hand and wanted to hold mine! I was like!!! hmmm, ok didn't think much and just held his hand and stroll to the mrt.

After that we continued to date  each other and met often like few times a week after his work. And I was testing him, if he was one of those guys I know in the past... He was quite fast to reply me and was always there. 
Then comes my birthday, he made it really special for me and brought me to Universal Studios Marine Park as I haven't before. And that day was the first time I went to his church as he requested me to go. I was hesitant because we are not official a couple but I didn't want to spoil his mood so we went.

Fast forward, the bad news is actually I ever rejected him once before we really became a couple. That was the turning point. Because I felt he didn't have the same mindset of me as in continuing being better, being normal despite his hearing loss which he had since a baby. Maybe he had this for many years that he felt its impossible to be hearing again. And at that time, I couldn't understand his world of deafness. Then I told him honestly we cannot be together just be friends.
But after that days later we continued to meet as friends as he didn't want to stop contact, we continued to meet and continuing our searching for new people again!...~ But the same time, he still treat me the same and is as good to me, sends me home every time we meet.

Then not long later, I couldn't stand the idea of him searching and talking to other girls. The jealously sets in and finally I told him subtlety that can we back together and resume our plans that we planned before. And he was so happy and so was I. At least, We didn't miss this chance. Also considering many factors, I felt he was the one for me. I liked his look and he's quite handsome with a sharp nose which I love! LOL. And also he was financially stable, mature, a christian and was taller than me by few cm I think. Plus having the same culture and heritage is very crucial as we are both Singaporeans! Happy Birthday to our home this year too! But I changed a lot of his fashion sense, we went hunting for new shirts, new wallet and taught him skincare techniques plus styling hair tips!~

One thing I love about Amos is his ever cheerful spirit. He always make me laugh even when it doesn't seem funny, maybe is his bad pronunciation of words... Although I did see his angry side which is very seldom but I recently warned him about that...~

My parents were against me being with him because of his disability at first. But because of his persistence and appearance of coming to my home, my mum saw how good he was to me. Massaging my shoulders when I am in pain and my mum saw it, she said I bullying him. Slowly, they saw his cheerful personality and my mum would sit down with him and communicate through writing. She was so patient with him. And then she started cooking so much food for him, all her best dishes, u can name it. And he loves every thing and ate to the last bit! That's why he put on much weight which he wanted to as he was underweight before. So it's not my fault! 
And he looks better when he puts on more weight too. Then, my dad also accepted him after he saw him very often and he being such a boy.

Finally I told him in advance that we need to get somewhere I like him to propose during my favorite season, Christmas. Then he agreed.
But plans changed and my family had to move house, so I told him we have to change our plans and bring forward our engagement. Because I may be going to his house often to stay or to prevent any gossip, is better that we get engaged first. So I actually know the day he was going to propose to me.

Then the day came and he was so nervous about it which made me nervous too.
And he decided the place himself at Changi airport. He asked his two besties to help him too. My parents were there to witness the event as I wanted them to be there. Anyway, the most surprising thing I really didn't know at all and was a surprise to me. He actually drew out a story of us and how we got together until now. I was so touched as I didn't know he would do this! And yes, I said YES! So I am officially engaged now. 

We still have our arguments because that's a process of getting to understand each other better. But most important, we go to church together which I always wanted to do with my partner. And we can pray together and have the same goal in life. We compromise to each other flaws, I am learning sign language classes currently to enter to his world and he is speaking out more now. We help each other in the areas we need help and love each other. He is now like another son in my family and I, a daughter in his family.

Communication is not a problem if you are willing to go their level and understand the person. Is a two way, not a one way. And I learnt is not going down or up in level, is growing closer to each other that matters. And through our quarrels sometimes, We grow closer because we see each other deeper. And we have the commitment to make this work, 















Love, is not about winning. Is about saying, Sorry or Thank you. 

Thank you Amos for loving me unconditionally. For being there for me at my lowest moment, for changing my mindset of many things. For me becoming a new person, a better woman and future mother. I can't wait to hold many more memories with you in this life journey. With God, nothing is impossible. Have faith and courage and your breakthrough will one day come!


Close up pics of the ring from A Japanese Jewelry shop, VENUS.